Finding Your Zen Amidst TTC
Two of my friends and I have been talking lately about ways to remain calm while enduring fertility treatments. Its so easy to let your mind wander to all the “what-ifs”, have a meltdown or panic attack after Googling something, feel hopeless when you get crappy test results, or contemplate giving up trying all together. I’m pretty sure any TTCer is feeling me right now…
So what do you do to keep your mind & body calm, focused & relaxed? How do you endure the storm? I’ll share some tips from my own personal routine that seem to help me navigate my way through this journey.
I always thought only old people soaked themselves in epsom salts for their aches & ailements. Well listen people, I have my own freaking aches & ailements now. Sometimes they are aches of the body, such as a sore lower back, tummy or breasts. Sometimes they are aches of the mind or soul. Feeling lost, afraid, vulnerable or pure yearning for that which I do not have yet. Either way, a warm (occassionaly hot) bath seems to do the trick. I start my bath water to a toasty temperature and add ~1 cup of epsom salts. You can also add sea salts. Make sure the water is warm but not burning hot. The rule of thumb is to not let your body temperature raise about 1 degree (for those TTC & pregnant – per my acupuncturist).
Once my salts begin to dissolve, I add some essential oils. Now as myself & my friends have been realizing, you have to be cautious as to what oils you are using at what point in your cycle. The oils I have pictured are all safe in the bath in small amounts (~3 drops each). I am no medical doctor, even though I play one on my blog 😉 so consult your physicians or health practitioners if you have questions. Lavendar, Orange, Lemon, Peppermint: All good choices. You only need to add a few drops of each to get the effects. Also adding some Olive Oil to the bath will leave your skin really hydrated and smooth. The epsom salts can dry the skin a little, though I have not had this problem because I moisturize afterward. There are recipes out there [[thank you Pinterest]] for creating your own bath salts, teas, bombs & fizzies. Find what works for you & stick with it, but don’t be afraid to experiment a little to really find your zen state.
So, light some candles (soy of course), turn down your lights, put on some relaxing music such as Zen Garden on Pandora (Thanks K) & really breathe. I think we all forget to stop & breathe throughout the day. I personally enjoy reading a book while soaking in the tub. I am reading The Fertile Female by Julia Indichova currently. Really take some down time for yourself to remember why you are doing what you’re doing. Remember & acknowledge why you are sticking yourself with needles, flying off the handle because of raging hormones, making Maca & flax smoothies & practically living at your doctor’s office. It’s all worth it.
Til next time xo