Daily Blessings

Throughout this fertility journey, no matter how much life has thrown at me, I will remember my blessings & affirmations each day.

JOIN THE MOVEMENT…Unsilence the Silence

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Bloggers Unite

If you look at me, I don’t look remarkable. I’m a plain 30-something, healthy & thin college educated married woman.

But I am infertile. I hate the word infertile. I would never label myself as infertile, but I think sometimes you need to use these “labels” to get people’s attentions. I am the face of multiple miscarriage & autoimmune disease. I don’t look sick, but I am.

Infertility isn’t a choice. It’s not an effect of my lifestyle. I was born this way. 1 out of every 8 couples {of reproductive age} suffer with infertility. There’s a very good chance that your close friends have struggled with infertility without you even knowing! That’s because there is such a stigma around the topic. And that needs to change. My husband and I suffer in silence, with only a few close friends being in our inner circle of knowing. People look at you different when you have a hard time conceiving, but they look even more uncomfortable when you tell them you’ve had 4 miscarriages. It’s a look that is a cross between pity and uncomfortable. Society feels these emotions of confusion because they are uneducated.

What everyone needs to understand is, like any other chronic condition or disease, infertility is something you suffer with, take medication for, see specialists for, and cry your eyes out about. My 22 year old brother was just diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes a few days ago… talk about a shock. But he and I are the same – we both have illnesses. The difference in society is his is recognized as legitimate & acceptable but mine is not.

Bearing a child is the greatest gift God can bestow upon you as a woman. For those of us who struggle and work years upon years to attain this joyful gift, and never do… there is no comfort to our hearts. Resolve is working to make our lives a little easier. To bring attention and funding to those couples or single women who need it most. And all we ask is that you listen with an open mind.

Please educate yourself by viewing the links listed below. Small steps lead to big changes.




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5 thoughts on “JOIN THE MOVEMENT…Unsilence the Silence

  1. Love the post!!! Infertility is a topic that should NOT be hushed by any means…. 🙂

    • Thank you! You’re right – it shouldn’t be hushed. And insurance companies should also recognize it as a disease and provide coverage!

      • Amen to that. I think we’re on the right track, there just needs to be more legislation. The guidelines that are in play right now are just open to individual interpretation. For example: My state only has a mandate to offer coverage, not provide. Not to mention, since the employer/company isn’t headquartered in the same state, they’re exempt. Loopholes…..gotta love ’em!
        We’ll get there. As long as we keep talking!!! 🙂

  2. “I don’t look sick, but I am.”

    What a powerful statement…and so true. It’s also so true what you said about your brother’s diagnosis being validated and yours being invalidated/silenced. I’m so sorry that you (like so many of us) haven’t received the validation that you need and deserve. Thank you for raising your voice for all of us who suffer from IF. Blessings on your journey.

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