Daily Blessings

Throughout this fertility journey, no matter how much life has thrown at me, I will remember my blessings & affirmations each day.

Archive for the tag “redefining fertility”

Finding My Own Path

I made a vlog this morning on one of my other websites discussing my feelings & thoughts about this cycle. I shared some insights, a few frustrations, a little confusion, and what i tentatively would like to do in the next week. A few hours later {and after some more introspection} I decided to get caught up on my daily fertility radio station passage for the day: Following Your Inner Guidance    It fit perfectly for what I am {and have been} going through on this “new” fertility journey.

I feel myself at an almost constant conflict between heart and mind, and I usually let my mind win. But fertility and my path to having a child isn’t an analytical procedure like a test I’d perform in the lab. My mindset as a scientist, by career, overshadows my feelings in my heart many times. If there is a problem, there’s a solution. Sometimes critical thinking and problem solving aren’t the answers to why i’m not pregnant. And I know for some of my friends, its difficult to give me advice because I am battling between what seems like 2 separate personalities. The mind-thinking part wants answers, wants to try everything to fix the problem, over-analyses everything, lives in fear. The heart-minded part of me, which listens to my intuition, is vastly different. And this is the part of my soul that I’m desperately trying to listen to and nurture more on this path. Its a Jekyll & Hyde type scenario happening inside me.

So for my friends who casually read this blog, please be patient with me. Please encourage me and support my decisions or my lack of decisions. It may not always make sense to you but i am learning as I go too. For my blog friends & TTCer followers, please listen to your heart. Accept modern medicine and all it can help you with, if you need it. But work on yourself first & make decisions with a sense of peace, not fear or desperation.

So, here are some key points & notes I took from the session:

Recognizing the difference between Fear or desperation-based decision making vs. Knowing or love-based decision making

Not being afraid to make decision based on how you feel deep in your heart.

Insight: follow your intuition.

Deciding from within, what your path is.

No one outside of you knows what’s best for you, only you do.

Finding a way to still the mind, and not make decisions based on fear, but rather listening to your heart and following your own fertility path.

Find stillness, look within, and you’ll be lead on your path.


Communication in a relationship

Redefining Fertility: Communication in your Relationship

I highly recommend this radio show segment for all those still TTC out there in blog land. Great tools and advice I know we can all use. Sometimes its just helpful to hear that others are going through the same things you are, and learn ways to cope.

Redefining the word ” Trying “

Redefining Fertility : Getting Pregnant Fast

Redefining Fertility : Stop Trying, Start Inviting

When I see “OTC” I think of over-the-counter.  When I see “TTC” I think of trying to conceive.  So when these two terms meet, do they become Over Trying to Conceive!?! Quite the opposite. In the 2nd link I listed about, a new term & outlook on fertility as a whole is defined:

OTC: Open to Conception

When asked, how long have you been trying to conceive as opposed to how long have you been open to conceiving, you really have an entirely different mannerism of answering. This made a lot of sense to me. Trying is such a burdensome word, its work, its tiresome, you can feel hopeless if you goal is not attained. You can feel like a failure. For an example in my life, I say my husband and I have been officially trying for 3 cycles (this is our 4th), but have hit our fertile window for 8 cycles (this being our 9th).

Now, if someone were to rephrase it as, How long have you and your husband been open to conceiving, I instantly feel different. I don’t feel as desperate or as bogged down with a timeline of MONTHS that have passed by. My honest answer would be, we’ve been open to conception since we got married in February, so this is our 4th cycle. This was a breakthrough for me.

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